Are the thoughts driving you to the blind alley?

Invisible illness
Invisible illness
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The brain has such an unimaginable power within that we have not been able to understand since today. Sometimes it makes us feel great and overtime its behavior begin to switch. To control your life, you should consider following these instructions.

Why emotionally stuck

Before treating, you need to know the reasons. John Amodeo, in his book, wrote why people get emotionally stuck in their lives.

He says;

If the shame is not painful, you would not even be able to spot it. You may also think you are a loser.


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Life is not about always seeing rainbows’ colors and catching beautiful butterflies in the garden of flowers. Life gets harder sometimes. There is only one way to make yourself easy by moving forward from where you are standing. Sometimes you have to pay for it. One and the essential practice is to get rid of all the negativity. The negativity that you catch from the people who are always on your way to tell…


Researches show that the brain in your pocket is draining energy from the brain in your head.

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Multi entertaining functions in a single application and millions in a single smartphone are cutting our concentration and trimming our memory.

The body-mind bond exists, but it is not always easy to comprehend. When it comes to learning all about your mental health and well-being, you need straightforward information that won’t scare or threaten you — information written by medical and behavioral professionals who know what they’re talking about and actually give a damn.

Weekly screen time statistics will also inform you how much time you’ve been browsing and scrolling.

You’re not lonely if the figures aren’t pleasant. Before the…


Emotional abuse results in psychological harm.

emotions, reprogram, control emotion
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Once you make a grave mistake of allowing an emotional manipulator to control your emotional well-being, he drives you and your psychological health.

Harriet B.Braiker, the author of “Who’s Pulling Your Strings?”, says, “manipulation is an evolving process over time.”

Emotional manipulation is emotional abuse results in psychological harm. Victims are controlled through a series of promised gains and threatened losses.

Has it ever happen to you that you feel like your partner is having an…


How long does it take to break a habit?

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Well, it depends on different circumstances. In 2009, research estimated this time between 18 to 254 days.

2012 research concludes that ten weeks or about 2.5 months is a reasonable estimate for most people.

In 2018, research on habit formation found that changing the environment makes it easy to adopt new habits or break the old habit patterns in this revolutionizing electronic era.

Bad habits do not vanish overnight.

It takes time to leave bad habits behind. Doctor Maxwell Maltz, enumerating experts view, says, ”it takes 21 days to break habits.”

But these words of him do not keep scientific…


“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” ( Ralph Waldo Emerson)

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In this era, one of the highest benefits of living life is without taking mental as well as external stress. When people have many materialistic and internal possessions, they feel all time worry and fearful. In this regard, everything that is destroyed in one person is the feeling of a peaceful life.

Reasons Behind Spending Peaceful Life

There are a lot of reasons to have a peaceful life. One of them is to make life simple without any burden of multiple thinking. To live a simple and smooth life can be more beneficial in several regards.

When any family spends time with each other, then…


Eyes of others our prisons; their thoughts our cages.

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We all want to be appreciated for our talents, but for appreciation, we are dependent on what other people think. We make them an indispensable part of our success.

We tailor our lives to fit the expectations of others by worrying about what other people think, and from there a vicious cycle starts, says Lolly Daskal, author of the Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness.

We see ourselves from people’s eyes, which drives us crazy because we cannot meet every person’s expectations.


Cultivate self-compassion and let go of perfectionism.

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Aristotle gave up the idealistic philosophy of his mentor and is called the father of realism. Aristotle believed that to understand an object, its ultimate form should not change. Same goes for perfectionism as there is no such thing as ideal.

Perfectionism and shame coexist. In fact, shame gives birth to perfectionism.

When we don’t claim this daunting word- shame, it claims us. Through perfectionism, it sneaks into our lives.

Perfectionism is neither about striving…


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If applied, it will change your life forever.

Are you fed up with setting a new goal that never pans out? Or you just stopped trying to achieve your dreams because it never came to pass? All of us have different aspirations like,

Some want a new, better job.

Some want to have a toned physique.

Some want to improve their interpersonal skills.

Some wish to have a promising relationship while for others financial security is a bold big goal.

A defined goal is always necessary to take control of your life’s direction, to focus and to succeed in life. It gives your life meaning, makes you work…


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When I was a child lying on a bed, I keenly urged to get mature and embrace the feeling of freedom. Freedom of going to the office with a lustrous and sleek dress, freedom of empowerment, freedom of making my own choices. But with time, I faced maturity and then I realized that it is not as fascinating as I expected. Maturity does not proceed with age; it’s something that you will learn with experience, it could be good or bad.

When a person grows up various changes takes place in him both physically as well as mentally. The physical…

Shahid Chap

Write about Self-improvement, Personal growth and Entrepreneurship. Owner of Better Advice

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